Feel the emotions

Imagine you have worked on a project really hard. You have put your heart and soul into it, and you were stoked with yourself and what you have achieved. However, other people not only didn’t appreciate your work but also praised someone else instead of you. 

How would you feel? What emotions come to the surface for you when you think about it?

Is it anger? Frustration? Disappointment? Resentfulness? Are you feeling hurt? Disheartened? 

Would those emotions ignite and pass quickly? Or would you stay in them for a while? Days even?

Now close your eyes and allow yourself to feel those emotions. Give yourself some time. Don’t rush.

Think about where you feel them in your body. 

Ask yourself: “Why am I feeling this?”, “What caused me to feel this way?”, 

Is it feeling undervalued? Unfairly treated? Is it that you need a validation and praise that you are doing a great job? That you need an acknowledgement for your work? Is it being seen?

Notice, after you named that, how are you feeling now? Is anger still lingering around, or is it gone? If it’s still here, does it have the same strength as it had before? Are you able to let go of it now?

Understanding what’s going on for us and what are our needs is crucial part of our emotional wellbeing. When we can address those needs directly, we’re on a right track to gain some insights about ourselves, our triggers, our values. But also address what triggers us, and what we need. 

It’s about not eliminating the negative emotions or suppressing them but being more self-aware, accepting them, and letting them pass.

Next time when you feel strong emotions, pause and explore what’s going on for you. You will build the awareness that you have not had before.

With care

Mags

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